Domestic violence against women 'prevalent' in Kashmir
Caritas helps women be mentally and financially stronger in the face of patriarchal abuse.
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| Muslim women attend a pre-dawn prayer outside a mosque in
Kashmir in this file photo. Studies show that thousands of women are
victims of domestic violence in Jammu and Kashmir state. (Photo by Umar
Shah) |
Srinagar:
As Tabasum Bano begins to narrate the ordeal, her hands tightly
gasp the arm of the chair. Her features become livid, eyes haggard and
lips agitated by a convulsive twitch.
Two years ago, and merely six months into her marriage, life for this 26-year-old woman from north Kashmir, began to fall apart.
"In
the beginning, I just used to receive jibes from my in-laws for not
bringing enough dowry. Then they started beating me up every day,"
Tabasum says.
Within a year, she began developing symptoms of
depression. One day, when she went to her father's home for a brief
stay, she sprinkled kerosene all over her body and set herself ablaze.
Timely action from her sister saved her.
Currently, she is
undergoing treatment for post-traumatic stress disorder at Kashmir's
Psychiatric Hospital. Her younger sister, Fehmeeda Bano says her elder
sibling has "constant mood swings" that "even if you find her in a good
mood, she can abruptly start bashing things around."
"She is on tranquilizers and it is only the hope of her recovering one day that keeps us going," said Fehmeeda.
After
Tabasum got divorced, her father, Ghulam Mohammad, filed a police case
of domestic violence against his daughter's former in-laws but they were
acquitted due to lack of evidence.
"Everyone called my daughter
mad, but she was a happy girl until she got married. She became a victim
of domestic violence," Mohammad said.
Unfortunately, Tabasum's case is just one of thousands in Kashmir, the Muslim-dominated northern Indian state.
According
to data released by the government in February, 1,170 cases of domestic
violence, abetment to suicide, cruelty by husbands or in-laws were
registered by police in the past two years in Jammu and Kashmir. Police
also arrested 2,818 persons for such crimes, said the government's
figures said.
However, a survey published in January by the
sociology department of the University of Kashmir reveals that more than
4,000 cases of domestic violence against woman are reported in Kashmir
every year. Kashmir women are reluctant to file complaints for fear of
causing disgrace to their families, it said.
Studies also show
that more than half the complaints are withdrawn due to family pressure
or after some sort of settlement between the parties.
The
university's research indicates that more than 40 percent of women in
Kashmir are physically or emotionally abused by their husbands, in-laws
or both. Dowry payments, misunderstandings and even the birth of a
female child can cause harassment.
Prevalent
Madhulika,
a social service official of the Catholic Church, said that domestic
violence against women in the state has been prevalent for a long time.
Madhulika,
who uses one name only, is the coordinator of the Integrated Community
Development, an initiative by Jammu and Kashmir's Catholic social
service, Caritas. "Earlier it was considered taboo to talk about such
issues, but the alarming increase in suicides and suicide attempts has
forced people to acknowledge the presence of this evil," she said.
"To
make women self-reliant and empowered is one of our primary objectives.
Keeping this in mind, we are running tailoring and beautician centers
for women in several rural areas of the state to help them become more
financially independent," she said.
Caritas has formed 57
women's groups of 35 to 50 members each that serve as a platform for
rural women who otherwise remain within the periphery of their houses.
Madhulika believes such groups will help women come out and share their
problems and support each other to become mentally and financially
stronger. "Once the groups in each hamlet are formed, women share their
situations and sort out their own issues," she said.
Psychiatric problems
Kashmir's
prominent psychiatrist, Mushtaq Margoob said that most psychiatric
problems among women in Kashmir are due to domestic violence. "It is
insecurity and lack of confidence among women because of abuse that, at
times, leads to suicide attempts."
B.A. Dabla, Kashmir's leading
sociologist and former head of Kashmir University's sociology
department, in his research, claimed that it is the patriarchal society
that supports violence against women. "The discrimination against women
still exists. The narrow social and mental set up has resulted in
increasing violence against women," Dabla says.
Most Indian
families consider the birth of a girl a liability as she must be married
and a dowry paid. Hindu families also long for boys as they believe the
souls of parents will have eternal rest only when a son leads the
funeral ceremonies.
Abdul Rashid Hanjura a social activist and
lawyer, says that the situation is aggravated because many incidents go
unreported and the guilty go unpunished. "Criminals go on committing
crimes because they know severe action will not be taken against them,"
he said.
The university research also relates unemployment and
the political unrest in the valley to the escalating domestic violence.
In the last 30 years, an estimated 100,000 people have died in Jammu and
Kashmir, including civilians, militants and army personnel, after
groups began an armed struggle for freedom from Indian rule or to merge
with neighboring Pakistan. Both countries claim the region and each
administer a part.
Source:
UCAN